- How to talk so kids will listen & how to listen so kids will talk
Author: Faber, A., & Mazlish, E.
Publisher: Mamaroneck, N Y: International Center for Creative Thinking
ABSTRACT: How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk is an excellent communication tool kit based on a series of workshops developed by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. Faber and Mazlish (coauthors of Siblings Without Rivalry) provide a step-by-step approach to improving relationships in your house. The "Reminder" pages, helpful cartoon illustrations, and excellent exercises will improve your ability as a parent to talk and problem-solve with your children. The book can be used alone or in parenting groups, and the solid tools provided are appropriate for kids of all ages.
- Letters to Judy: What kids wish they could tell you
Author: Blume, J.
Publisher: New York: Simon & Schuster
- How to talk to teens about really important things
Author: Schaefer, C. E., & DiGeronimo, T. F.
Publisher: Jossey-Bass, San FranciscoAbstractMany parents dread the teen years, a time that can be filled with turmoil and experimentation. The best way for parents to get through these years? Communicate with your child. How to Talk to Teens About Really Important Things is an A-to-Z of dos and don'ts for talking with your teenager about issues as complicated as drinking, violence, ethics and moral values, depression, prejudice, homosexuality, pregnancy, and pornography — in short, the "hard" stuff. Lightly walking the line of supportive education and strong parenting (while carefully avoiding the pitfalls of judgmentalism and blanket acceptance), the authors, Charles E. Schaefer, a psychologist, and Theresa Foy DiGeronimo, an English professor, give sample answers and discussion points for parents. In general, the advice for parents stresses empathy, education, and providing safe limits for teens, but the authors are not afraid to be firm. In the "Tattoos and Body Piercing" section, for instance, they provide information for parents unfamiliar with the procedure, then suggest what to say when putting your foot down ("I want you to know that you do not have my permission to get a tattoo or to get any part of your body pierced...You are not allowed.") Throughout the book, the authors suggest ways to use media examples to educate children, and they provide a variety of helpful resources, including books, movies, and Web sites.
- Talk with your kids
Organization: Children Now and the Kaiser Family Foundation
Type of Site: organization
ABSTRACT: Talking With Kids About Tough Issues is a national initiative by Children Now and the Kaiser Family Foundation to encourage parents to talk with their children earlier and more often about tough issues like sex, HIV/AIDS, violence, alcohol, and drug abuse.
- The effect of communication characteristics on family members' perceptions of parents as sex educators
Author: Feldman, S. S. & Rosenthal, D. A.
Journal: Journal of Research on Adolescence Volume: 10(2)
ABSTRACT: Studied parents' and teenagers' evaluations of parents as sex educators; the convergence between mothers', fathers', and teens' evaluations; and communication factors that influenced these evaluations. Surveys, administered to 209 10th graders (16-yr-olds), 156 mothers, and 91 fathers, assessed global evaluation of parents as sex educators, diverse dimensions of general and sexual communications, and frequency of sex-related communications in 4 domains. It was found that teens evaluated mothers more positively than they evaluated fathers, daughters evaluated mothers more positively than did sons, and parents evaluated themselves more positively than did their children. There was significant mother-teen correspondence but not father-teen correspondence in evaluations. In separate regression analyses, frequency of sex-related communications and the quality of general and sex-related communications each predicted evaluations of mothers. In a combined regression analysis, the quality of general and sex-related communications influenced teens' evaluations of their mothers and mothers' evaluation of themselves. Findings suggest that to improve the effectiveness of parents as sex educators, their general communication skills need improving.
- Relationship between adolescent-parental communication and initiation of first intercourse by adolescents
Author: Karofsky, P. S., Zeng, L., & Kosorok, M. R.
Journal: Journal of Adolescent Health Volume: 28
ABSTRACT: Examined the level of communication between parents and adolescents and correlated the findings with onset of sexual intercourse in a 10-yr longitudinal study. 203 12-21 yr old clinic patients filled out questionnaires at the time of each health supervision visit. The questionnaires inquired about grades and school activities, relationship with siblings and parents at home, and risk taking behaviors involving alcohol, drugs, and sex with peers. During the initial survey, 172 Ss were in the virginal group and 31 in the nonvirginal group. The virginal group had a higher rating of communication with their parents after adjusting for age. To verify these findings, an additional 29 patients in the virginal group who converted to nonvirginal status during the first 5 yrs of the study were examined. The authors then compared the level of adolescent-parental communication between the subgroup who converted to nonvirginal status with the level of communication of the subgroup who remained virgins. Even after correcting for age, communication with the mother was significantly better in patients who maintained their virginal status. It is concluded that teenagers who perceive that they have a better level of communication with their parents are less likely to engage in sexual intercourse.